One piece of advice that makes everything easier: What I, as a mother, would give to expectant mothers.
“Oh, not much will change – I’ll just take my baby everywhere with me and carry on with my life.” That’s what I said a little over two years ago. I was heavily pregnant with our first son and couldn’t imagine the huge impact a child would have on a mother’s life. My husband and I agreed that I would take extended parental leave and take on the main responsibilities at home. I had a lot of romantic notions in my head about leisurely strolling to a café or into town with my child, meeting friends, and the little one even sleeping on the go when he was tired. I completely underestimated how tired I would get myself and how much I would need breaks.
Once my baby was born, everything revolved around my little one. Not that that was a bad thing, but I didn't take any time for myself. When he was awake, I played and cuddled with him; when he slept, I did the housework, cooked meals, and everything else that needed doing. This couldn't go on for long, and exhaustion and a feeling of imbalance caught up with me. The days flew by, without any time for coffee or exercise. I had to make some fundamental changes if I wanted to experience motherhood with a sense of happiness and fulfillment.
"Integrate your child into your everyday life and listen to yourself!"
This tip has made my life so much easier. Instead of trying to do all the housework while your child is asleep, involve them in your daily tasks whenever possible . If they're still little, strap them into your baby carrier and enjoy the physical contact while you hang up the laundry or cook lunch. If they're older, let them load the dryer or wash the spinach for dinner. It might take a little longer, but your child will appreciate the time together and the feeling of being able to help.
Furthermore , your life becomes a bit more relaxed. I like to get some housework done with my son in the mornings, which gives me the peace and quiet at lunchtime to lie down with him for a nap, instead of trying to cram in a whole to-do list. In between, I do yoga while my little one climbs all over me or plays. Between the routines, there's plenty of time and, above all, energy for the things we love – being out and about, meeting friends, experiencing new things. We've started to shift our perspective – time with our child is also time for us.
Don't forget: cherish the moments with your baby and take good care of yourself and your physical and mental health. Take time out when you need it to recharge. Your child is happy when you are!
Gender disclaimer: This article is addressed to mothers. However, fathers and all social genders and gender identities are welcome to feel included.
Your Charlotte ( Holistic Health Coach - IG: @sunlitsimplicity )
