Hello dear (expectant) mothers,
My name is Lisa, I'm 31 years old and the proud mom of my little daughter, who is now 2.5 years old. And yes – I'm still breastfeeding her. So you could call me a "long-term breastfeeder." Did I plan it that way from the beginning? Probably not, but it just evolved that way and it feels right and good!
Extended breastfeeding – the very word triggers a wide range of reactions: “Isn’t that weird?”, “Are you still breastfeeding?”, “Is that even healthy?”, “She’s eating solids already!”, “Will she still be attached to your breast when she’s 18?” – I’ve been hearing these and similar questions for quite some time now. But why? Why do mothers who breastfeed their children for longer periods constantly have to justify themselves?
Breastfeeding is more than just nutrition for me – it's a deep bond and an expression of love and security. I want to encourage you to embark on this special journey and enjoy the wonderful moments of breastfeeding, no matter how long your breastfeeding journey lasts. It has to be right for you and your baby. Don't let others influence you or feel pressured to defend your decision.
In today's society, it unfortunately takes a lot of self-confidence to stay true to one's own path. Breastfeeding beyond the first year is not the norm – and this is constantly emphasized. Yet it should be perfectly natural.
The benefits of breastfeeding
Breastfeeding has so many benefits that go beyond simply providing nourishment. Breastfeeding soothes, comforts, and strengthens the bond between mother and child. It promotes the child's emotional and psychological development and gives them security and a sense of belonging. And let's be honest, is there anything more wonderful than the comforting feeling of having your child close to you? Whether for breastfeeding or simply for cuddling – that's completely irrelevant, isn't it?
The doubts
Of course, there are days when I have doubts too. Days when I wonder if this is really the right thing to do. Especially when someone tells me to my face how perverse it is to still be breastfeeding such an older child. But then I see my child, how much they enjoy breastfeeding, how they snuggle up to me, and how happy they are. In those moments, all my doubts vanish.
An appeal to all expectant mothers
Dear mothers who want to breastfeed their child longer or are already doing so: You are enough. You are wonderful just the way you are. Don't let the opinions of others unsettle you. You know your child and you know what's best for both of you. Only those who follow their own path can't be overtaken by anyone – and your path is exactly right, just as it is.
Breastfeeding is a gift. It's love in its purest form. It's okay to breastfeed for as long as you and your child want. You are amazing and you give your child so much more than just nourishment. You give security, comfort, and a strong bond. And that is priceless.
Solidarity among mothers
Especially for expectant mothers, the support and encouragement of other mothers can be invaluable. Breastfeeding is a journey with its ups and downs, and sometimes you simply need reassurance that you're on the right track. Share your experiences, encourage each other, and celebrate the small and big successes together.
So, don't let anyone discourage you. You are enough. You are wonderful just the way you are. And your child is happy – what more could you want?
All love,Lisa ( @lisaxbeyer )
